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Hey there, listeners. Let's talk about something we've all experienced but rarely discuss openly—those people in our lives who seem to stick around only when it benefits them.
We've all been there. Someone who magically appears when
they need something, but becomes invisible when you're the one struggling.
Today, we're breaking down seven revealing attitudes that expose people who use
you—and more importantly, how to protect yourself.
So, let’s observe, understand, and learn to set boundaries
where they’re needed.
The first attitude is simple: they take more than they give.
These people view you as a resource—someone they can extract value from,
whether it’s your time, energy, or help. They’ll ask for favors, borrow your
support, and lean on you during tough times. But when do you need them?
Silence.
You’ll notice they rarely offer anything in return unless it
benefits them. True relationships are built on balance—mutual support and care.
A person who constantly takes without giving doesn’t value you; they value what
you do for them.
In a genuine relationship, support is a two-way street. When
you succeed, true friends celebrate with you, and when you struggle, they stand
by your side. But those who use you? They disappear the moment you face
hardship.
To them, your struggles are inconvenient. Why? Because their
interest in you is conditional—it’s tied to what they can gain. When there’s
nothing to gain, they withdraw. Pay attention to those who vanish when you’re
at your lowest. They’re showing you their true nature.
One of the most common tactics these people use is
manipulation. They know you’re kind, empathetic, or generous, and they take
advantage of those qualities. They might guilt-trip you into helping them or
twist situations to make you feel obligated.
For example, they may say, “If you really cared, you’d do
this for me.” They play on your emotions, making you feel selfish if you set
boundaries. Remember this: true care never demands or manipulates. It respects
limits and values your well-being.
These people are like shadows—only appearing when the sun is
shining. When times are good and opportunities are abundant, they claim to be
your friend. But when you need genuine emotional support or when life gets
tough, they’re nowhere to be found.
Convenience is their driving factor. They’ll be around for
fun, success, or moments that serve their agenda, but disappear when there’s no
benefit. Real friends are present during both the highs and the lows—those who
care to stay through it all.
Here’s another sign: they’re indifferent to what matters to
you. When you talk about your passions, struggles, or dreams, they might nod
along but rarely engage. Conversations with them often feel one-sided, focused
on their needs and experiences.
They’re not invested in knowing you deeply because their
interest in you is surface-level. Their focus is on how you can serve them, not
on building a genuine connection. Real relationships involve curiosity,
empathy, and shared joy.
People who use you often test your boundaries, pushing
limits to see what they can get away with. They’ll ask for unreasonable favors,
demand your time at their convenience, or pressure you into doing things that don’t
sit right with you.
If you say no, they might respond with frustration, guilt
trips, or passive-aggressive behavior. But boundaries are a sign of
self-respect, and someone who truly cares about you will honor them, not
challenge or break them.
The final attitude is perhaps the most telling: they can’t
handle rejection. When you stop being useful to them—when you start saying no
or setting limits—they pull away. Their sudden absence speaks volumes.
These people were never in your life for you; they were
there for what you offered. When you remove the benefits, their interest
evaporates. This can feel painful, but it’s also freeing—it reveals who
genuinely values you and who doesn’t.
Recognizing these patterns isn't about judgment. It's about
clarity and self-protection. These individuals might hide behind smiles or
seemingly kind gestures, but their actions reveal their true nature.
When you consistently observe these behaviors, it's time to
act. Protect your energy, time, and emotional well-being. Surround yourself
with people who show up—not just when it's convenient, but when it matters.
Relationships should elevate you, not drain you. You deserve
connections that value you for who you are, not what you can provide. If this
resonates with you, share it. Someone in your circle might need this wake-up
call.
Stay strong. Set boundaries. Choose relationships that
nurture your spirit.
Until next time, take care.